Manipulator or persuasive.
What is the difference between these two personalities? Sometimes we can confuse them, but in fact it is very easy to distinguish them.
The two types of people seek to convince each other of what they argue.
The persuasive person is one who argues and emphasizes his convictions by reasoning, strives to make understand what he is explaining, seeks a cooperation, give a benefit to both parties. In his exposition he never uses victimism, nor does he seek to blame or humiliate the other.
The manipulator seeks to control, take advantage of itself and without caring about the damages they pose to the other, is a person who uses techniques such as victimhood, that is, the fault is always of others or of causes alien to themselves , Always seeks to get something from the other, when he does not get his way, verbally attacks trying to blame and humiliate and trying to prove that the fault is not his.
Use the tantrum or easy anger, I give an example of both cases.
Imagine that we are going to dinner with our girlfriend and some friends, we are in front of a brasserie and we decided to go in, but our girlfriend does not fancy that type of restaurant, she does not want meat, she wants to eat fish.
She could persuade us by arguing that she knows a seafood restaurant where she eats very well, in quantity and at a very economical price, which is very close to where we are, that the restaurant is very pleasant and that when you leave always give you a small souvenir gift . In these arguments there is a benefit for all.
But you might also want to manipulate by arguing "Joe, we always have to eat meat, you know that what I like is fish, I always have to go wherever you want, you never listen to me." In these arguments there is victimism and blame others.
It may be the case that what he actually exposes is reality, in which case it would not be manipulation, but rather a full-fledged complaint and a disrespect on the part of everyone else.
I hope it is clear the difference between manipulating and persuading, the persuade seeks the benefit for all, the manipulator seeks only his own benefit without caring about the harm to others.
The two types of people seek to convince each other of what they argue.
The persuasive person is one who argues and emphasizes his convictions by reasoning, strives to make understand what he is explaining, seeks a cooperation, give a benefit to both parties. In his exposition he never uses victimism, nor does he seek to blame or humiliate the other.
The manipulator seeks to control, take advantage of itself and without caring about the damages they pose to the other, is a person who uses techniques such as victimhood, that is, the fault is always of others or of causes alien to themselves , Always seeks to get something from the other, when he does not get his way, verbally attacks trying to blame and humiliate and trying to prove that the fault is not his.
Use the tantrum or easy anger, I give an example of both cases.
Imagine that we are going to dinner with our girlfriend and some friends, we are in front of a brasserie and we decided to go in, but our girlfriend does not fancy that type of restaurant, she does not want meat, she wants to eat fish.
She could persuade us by arguing that she knows a seafood restaurant where she eats very well, in quantity and at a very economical price, which is very close to where we are, that the restaurant is very pleasant and that when you leave always give you a small souvenir gift . In these arguments there is a benefit for all.
But you might also want to manipulate by arguing "Joe, we always have to eat meat, you know that what I like is fish, I always have to go wherever you want, you never listen to me." In these arguments there is victimism and blame others.
It may be the case that what he actually exposes is reality, in which case it would not be manipulation, but rather a full-fledged complaint and a disrespect on the part of everyone else.
I hope it is clear the difference between manipulating and persuading, the persuade seeks the benefit for all, the manipulator seeks only his own benefit without caring about the harm to others.
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